You are spending most of your time with this one person – they make you laugh, and you have the best time together, but that’s it! It can be super frustrating to know that someone you like doesn’t like you back. As much as people love to idealize movies and how they always end up with their crush, the reality is not so simple! Yes, being in the friend zone is not the best feeling, but it is also not the end of the world. So, let’s not wallow and not take this as a negative experience. Instead, focus on yourself to make the best of your life because, at the end of the day, you are the one with these feelings that you need to deal with.
So, what exactly is the “Friend Zone”?
Well, most people are aware of the “friend zone” or “buddy zone,” but still let us try to unravel the term. The Urban dictionary defines it as a “particularly aggravating metaphorical place, that people end up in when someone they are interested in only wants to be friends. It’s impossible to get over someone while in the friend zone, because, as friends, you still see them too often for them to be erased from your memory, and yet, you can’t be with them the way you want.”
We agree that it sounds pretty difficult to deal with it, but it is not unmanageable. To help you out, Health Shots reached out to emotional intelligence coach Shivam.
How to get out of the friend zone and live a happy life?
It happens to the best of us and can be confusing, but nothing you can’t get over. It may feel like a nightmare at first, but you will get over it. So, scroll down to live a life full of happiness and not dwell in your sorrows anymore.
1. Separate your worth from that person
When someone friend zones you, it may bring you down and make you feel unworthy – but that’s not the case! Your worth should not depend on another person. “Even if the person didn’t want to take the relationship to the next level, it still doesn’t make you unworthy or unwanted. By identifying your worth and appreciating it, you can find better ways to accept your choice,” says Shivam.
2. Build some boundaries
So, the person you are crushing on has decided that they want to stay friends. What about you? If you still want that person to stay in your life, you must draw some boundaries for their sake and your own. Coach Shivam says that it can be emotionally burdening for you to try to maintain the same chemistry as before. By building boundaries, you can give yourself some space and time to process how you want to take it forward.
3. Get busy
The best remedy to get over someone is not to get involved with someone else but to concentrate on yourself whilst being aware of what you feel. “Keep yourself occupied but not at the cost of rejecting your emotions or thoughts. Take your time to process your feelings. Taking the help of a professional can do wonders,” recommends the intelligence coach.
4. Don’t lose hope
When you get stuck in the friend zone, it can lower your self-confidence but don’t lose hope! Just because it didn’t work out with someone you liked doesn’t mean it is never going to work out with anyone else, adds Coach Shivam.